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Should she leave her boyfriend?

Posted by admin | personal, relationship | Posted on October 30th, 2009

A letter from a friend:

Two years ago, I broke up with my boyfriend after a six-year relationship. We broke up because of the pressure around us which made things complicated. Lang story short—we couldn’t get along. He was my first love as I was his.
Then I met a new guy. He’s such a good man. One of a kind. He’s like family now because of all the help he has extended to my family.

What bothers me a lot is my ex-boyfriend. He told me he never felt love again. He’s still deeply in love with me. I felt the same way too but I didn’t want to hurt my present boyfriend. It would be unfair to him, so I left him. I felt so guilty because his life was ruined. He begged a lot lie lost his willingness to live. I pitied him since he didn’t deserve that So I decided to be with him again. I have been confused for a year now.

There’s only one heart in the body and though it’s corny—it can only hold one love at a time. Believe it—despite what serial lovers profess.

You only go into a relationship because you passionately feel something toward another—never because you have a debt to pay and never for pity1. Don’t stay with him because you pity him. Pity is a diminishing commodity. After a while, it leaves a bad taste in the mouth. Definitely not worth the stress in compromising your emotions.

Be honest with yourself That’s the only way you can respect yourself or live with yourself everyday Do you realize how worry can make you physically sick? If you don’t love this present boyfriend anymore—tell him quietly and sincerely It will hurt but he won’t die—contrary to what he’s telling you. All these spell pain but they will go away in time. All wounds heal with the passage of time.

If you truly feel guilty about leaving your present boyfriend, resolve to pay back some or all the money you’ve borrowed from him. Though your debt of gratitude cannot ever be quantified, he will be paid back for that with:
good karma. Remember the saying What goes around, comes around?” The universe will pay him back in full, even without you ever lifting a finger.

Bottom line is—life is too short. Be honest with your feelings and be truthful to the people who love you. That is the only way to find peace of mind.
Just remember—sometimes, you have to be cruel to be kind.